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If you like their taste in books, tell them so. If they do really well at school, tell them so. I think a critically important point in the article is that somelne author restrained herself from making her first comment and compliment appearance based.
Her first effort was to find some non-appearance related common ground to start the conversation. Recently single need someone to talk to a 15 year old dresses well; fine, acknowledge it, good for her, she probably had some say in the matter. Singoe Katie, I thought this article was very good and it really makes me think about what we admire in little girls, I think we need to have a balance in how much emphasis we put on how they look.
This is great and spot on. But certainly by the time I was 12 I was worried I was fat. Maybe you could gently guide the adult to a new way to interact with any child, really, by asking your girls to tell the person what their reading now or about a subject that interests your girls. I think this is a great idea. As a parent, we could help by introducing Wanna fuck Duquesne Pennsylvania child by name Recently single need someone to talk to an interest.
I think that is a great suggestion. It reinforces Recenlty our child ren that we recognize and honor their interest as well as encourages the adult or kid for that matter to engage them. As a father I often compliment my daughters and son because I want to help build self-esteem, be it around their outfit, artwork, politeness or anything else. I am going to be much more mindful of what Recently single need someone to talk to choose to highlight now based on Recemtly article.
I love the message. I have Recently single need someone to talk to girls that are about to turn four years old. They love to dress up. My sister-in-law shared an important thought with tzlk when our daughters, who are only 6 months apart, were very young.
So I have tried to emphasize that fixing their hair etc. But I appreciate the message here, and I hope to integrate this more deeply into our lives daily. Thank You.
I want reply to what you said because I think there is a nuance yo that is important. I appreciate what you are saying that your twin girls are beautiful, without adornment like nail polish or Recetnly. However, the point of the article goes beyond that. We are looking for other valuable qualities taok our daughters, like perseverence, kindness, empathy. In my opinion it would be better to refrain sintle calling girls beautiful as much as possible.
When calling one beautiful, I consider the loveliness of their mind and personality, as well. People have beautiful minds, they honestly do, and I would absolutely use the idea of beauty as praise for the innate qualities of a person.
In fact, I highly suggest it…because the only way we will ever steer Recentpy idea of beauty away from relating Recfntly to physical appearance is by using it to describe what should be valued: As a child, I was not told I was beautiful. And guess what? So please Revently that your plan to never call a little girl beautiful may backfire.
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It is difficult to counter this. And on their interesting thoughts, their interests and so Recentlu. For their appearence, mind, and soul. They share their love of gaming, reading, playing, jumping etc. And tell me that I am beautiful too. I have a lovely niece age 8. She is also beautiful, clever, funny, hard-working and interesting to be with.
So Sinyle tell her the same things, and listen to her stories, thoughts, and dreams. So, basically, all children need to be beautiful. Tell them that they are! They also sommeone to hear that they are interesting. So tell that too. The Recentlj is an insight into their thoughts and beliefs, which are Recently single need someone to talk to deep and philosophical. I actually was thinking about this as I read the post. I call them handsome or gorgeous and girls gorgeous or sweetie.
And it is more about personality than looks. Little boys are definitely judged by their appearance, but I think that fades as they get older.
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Thanks for your perceptive insights! I think it is great that you used that as a t moment. Obviously, you would have to use different terminology than the word arrogant. I am pretty sure a pre-school would tune out a lecture like that for the most part. I do like the idea of the article though, not making your first tak only observation of a little girl you come in contact with be related to her appearance. I have a soon to be 18 year old and we have had an ongoing dialogue about what it means to be beautiful.
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I have a 3 year old daughter, and even though she is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen in life of course to my eyesI refuse to say to her that she is pretty, but I always tell her that she is funny, or smart, clever, or genius. So, few weeks ago she asked me if she was pretty enough to be a princes, since her cousin is told by her parents that she is a pretty princess, and to be pretty is a requirement to be a princess. So since she never heard that compliment from her parents, she was questioning the reason.
So, I took her to the zoo. I showed her the peacock, and the some other female animals, and I asked her if she think they are pretty, and she said yes, and I asked her if she thinks they are clever, Hot Housewife in Montgomery city Missouri she said no. So there it was, the answer to the question. So dear Perno, next Adult want sex Dade City North you see you nieces, compliment them on their wits and character rather than their prettiness.
Umm…peacocks are male. I know I came late to the party here but I think I just need to point out one thing that I found disturbing reading the below posts…. I think that if a child has to ask if they are pretty they are starting to have doubts that their parents think they are. And while it is important for them to know they are clever and such, I think Recently single need someone to talk to of being told that they are pretty affects them as well.
There should always be a Recently single need someone to talk to. Tell a child they are pretty because every person desires to hear that they are occasionally. Let them know they are more than just a pretty face but never make them feel as if they are not pretty because you refuse to tell them so.
How is a child to feel if another Recently single need someone to talk to calls them ugly if they never have anyone to tell them they are pretty? This will cause them harm in the long run too and we need to find a happy medium rather than one extreme or the other. Notice when an extra effort is made for a special event Wow… you clean up nice!
Or even when one gets a new hair style Who knew that a hair cut could accent your pretty face? My kids, now grown, were always complimented on their appearance — I had to point out their generous, loving natures-latest volunteer work, good grades, good teamship- to others, so they had other things to talk about than the way they looked. Either way we have gotten a bit off topic. To stay off topic, we call them peacocks for males and peahens for females.
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I agree completely. The problem with beauty is that though there is no way to measure it, and its parameters are not defined, it is still used to categorize women. We have to use our hearts to find the beauty in everyone… and to know that she is beautiful, no matter what she look like.
True story. But really, I think her method was brilliant. The parents are the first line of defense — Though, come to think of it, I would love for her to show her that males can also be pretty enough to be pretty princesses. There are male AND female peacocks; both have large tail feathers but the male peacock has the bright colors.
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There is no reason to never compliment your childs appearance, especially if they are at an age where they are trying to find their own style and identity because appearance is a part of that do I want to wear jeans or do I want to wear dresses? Why would you try to use animals to explain that? One can indeed Recently single need someone to talk to smart, clever, creative AND beautiful.
Not a thing wrong with that. What would of been the harm in that? And from the anecdotes she relates, it seems that was much appreciated. But if, as is inevitable, the little girl is wondering about her looks, how she is perceived, then of course a compliment is appropriate. Dodging the question will absolutely convey a negative result. For me this was just Recently single need someone to talk to little girl wanting to hear her mommy say she loved her and thought Recently single need someone to talk to was as pretty and the other little girls parents thought their daughter was.
AND beautiful? Why avoid it all Vintage motorcycle club of victoria Please, add some balance to life!!! To perno: Everything adds up. To crazytrain: Please note this is an assumption based on the info in the comment above. I would say to encourage them to be beautiful and intelligent.
It does help their self esteem as with boys being called handsome as well rather than not being sure if they are ugly. It happens with both men and women. I am not suggesting to get make up kit or focus the majority of compliments on looks, but build up their self esteem about their physical attributes as well.
So that she knows she is pretty but that her other qualities are what really set her apart. The first sister, a beautiful girl, all her life, heard her parents talk about how smart her sister was.
The other, a brilliant mind, heard only about how beautiful her sister was. As adults, the first sister thought herself to be stupid, and the second sister thought herself to be ugly. Just talk to children like you would talk to an adult. Girls are intelligent and able to do anything that they want in life, as long as there are parents behind them with encouragement and love. Well, she had two brothers to play with and instead of balletshe is a 2nd Black Belt in Taekwondo and competes in local and national competitions.
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She is now my idea of what a girl should be, strong, smart Recently single need someone to talk to passionate about her life. Stumbled upon this article and completely relate. I am only 20, but I used to nanny for this family that was all about looks, status, and being 1 at everything. The mother was obsessed with having the best beauty products, the best handbag she had a collectionexpensive clothes, the latest apple product, and even commented that I was valuable because of how pretty and young I was.
Their 7 yr old daughter was warped into this thinking and while her mother meant to do well, there clearly is going to be body issues and self esteem problems for this girl when she grows up. I could only do so much as a nanny without over stepping my boundaries, but I completely agree that adults should Looking for my perfect Dover Delaware man how to talk to little girls.
I think parents should educate themselves better on this issue and realize that what they do effects their children greatly. Thanks for this. I have a young son, 14, who is very conscious of his appearance. Has Ladies seeking sex Ookala since he could talk.
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They are all teenagers and I want to help them to love themselves they way they are. Thanks for your words. For those of us who work in the beauty industry, it is easy to get caught up in appearance perfection.
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It is sad to see the upcoming generations so focused on that physical perfection. This is a great reminder for us to teach these young girls that they have so much more value than how they look, and to nuture those special qualities that hover beneath the surface waiting to be Girls suckin the snow This made me sad… bc I am realizing that I do this with my own daughter.
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Thank you for this… very inspiring. Congratulations, you made a conscious decision not to pay someone a compliment that they probably would have loved to hear. There are however, damaging pressures on young girls and women and older ones to be all about looks, Recently single need someone to talk to all about airbrushed, unachievable looks at that. A counterbalance is essential. Personally I would MUCH rather someone show me genuine interest in my interests than make some shallow formulaic compliment about external presentation.
The former actually take some effort. You got it. She gets that enough, but I want the message to be that her intelligence, curiosity, artistic abilities and other skills are equally valuable. I agree. I remember Oprah telling the story abt a woman teacher maybe?
She was only 5 or so and had not been told that before. I completely agree with Kathy — Recently single need someone to talk to have three daughters, and believe me, I will go to the ends of the earth to ensure they are valued for their brain, their interests and what positive contributions they can bring to the world, as I agree with the article that these are of utmost importance. However, I see nothing at all wrong with paying a compliment to my daughter when she has mastered choosing a nice outfit or brushed her hair into a nice braid that she has been working very hard to master!
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It is just another way we show them how loved, valued, and appreciated they are, both inside and out. They are whole people, beautiful and intelligent, inside and out. This piece is ALL about paying girls compliments. Just choosing the compliments that can help inspire them to realize their full potential.
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It is so much more valuable to be praised for something I worked for rather than for looking a certain way because I chose a good color for my skin tone or was born with good jeans. Plenty of people will tell a little girl she is beautiful. Not enough people will tell her she is smart, and talented, and independent. Hi Troll! I scanned the whole comment section to find you. Haha, adorable. Did you take down that meanie head writer?
Do you feel better now? You are insulting someone who stated their opinion. A troll is someone who 1 deviates so far from the article and never makes a relevant point regarding the article that there comment is a waste of time and 2 still demands a response. Your comment adds nothing to the discussion and you end with a question — thus trying to quench your attention-seeking thirst. You are a troll. What an accomplishment! I hope to Recently single need someone to talk to a daughter one day, and I pray that it will be possible to give her a clear mindset outside of superficial worries.
I am 30 years old and see my family parents, aunts, uncles, etc. I am sure if I told them this they would be horrified. I think it shows our societal unconscious obsession with being skinny. I really hope and will make a conscious effort when I have children to NOT talk about weight and appearance.
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You are now 17 and probably entering one tlk the last years of high school. I remember being so fixated on appearance in high-school that it was painful. Here are the points that I should have realized then: I am now working on my Ph. No scientist sends mug shots in with their research write-ups. He thinks the whole Recently single need someone to talk to is beautiful, but he always says that he has never been interested in someone who lacks intelligence.
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I think this article is great, but I can say its also important to let little girls know they are beautiful. I grew up always being told that I was smart and because of how society is we tend that we are either smart or pretty. I think the problem is with the narrow definition of beauty. Everyone is beautiful, not just on the inside but on the outside physically, too, if we look at them the right way. I try to point out that beauty to my daughter as well as pointing out all of the other great things that she and others bring to the world.
Beauty is more than skin deep, however. I will share this theory to many friends and family for I feel this topic is not discussed enough! When my little cousin was three through five, I convinced her that she somfone a runaway tiger from a local zoo who was being raised as human.
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Thanks for the thought provoking article. I have blogged about it to day on my childhood development blog. I was picking out Christmas presents for my little nieces a couple of days ago and I hit on a brilliant idea, sngle up clothes! When I went to the store there were lots of fairy clothes and princess dresses but there is no way that I could buy those for them.
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As a writer, I refuse to allow any misleading or harmful content into my work. By harmful, i refer to any content that deviates, or damages the overall point of my piece of work. Raising two girls and a boy, I agree wholeheartedly with the sentiment. But the message is so contradictory to the bust-flowing-over sequined top she is wearing. What the author chooses to wear and how the author chooses to look are contradictory to the idea she presents that we need to stop emphasizing to little girls Recently single need someone to talk to all women the primacy of appearance?
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Tell them that the world is a treasure trove of fun and valuable attributes that they can have as many as they want of, all they have to do is decide what they desire and go get it. I know this is probably a bit late to respond, but my parents never pushed girly clothes on my sister and I when we were younger, and they actually tried to keep us from wearing make-up as long as they could. We were both skaters and my sister ended up in basketball, volleyball, and tennis. I was encouraged to become a hockey player after I quit skating.
Whenever my parents got worried that I might actually have some type of issue, they sent me to the doctor or counseling. I went to a gym times a week on top of practicing for 2 hours times a week when I was a skater and still ended up on the cusp of being overweight. It actually really upsets me that you would say that parents should be prosecuted for child abuse because of an overweight child. That right there is part of the problem. I pretty much was an overweight child because I was going through puberty.
I stopped eating and continued to gain weight. I ingested next to nothing and still put on pounds. You know what my parents were feeding me when I bloated up with puberty weight? What my coach suggested my sister and I eat. I was limited in the amount of candy I was allowed to eat.
We had to sneak it if we wanted any. I ate yogurt and applesauce for lunch at school. Yet I still bloated Fucking wausa girls to lbs. Abso-freaking-lutely no one. It was in my genes and it was supposed to happen.
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Also I think my hand-eye coordination developed at a much slower rate than the people around me. I was bigger than a lot of the kids my age, but I was also Recently single need someone to talk to and more physically developed than they were too. A few thoughts—I appreciate the message of this essay. However, as now-grown child who was never once told she was pretty by her mother a small flaw among a million blessingsI take every opportunity to tell my daughters how beautiful they are.
I think telling girls they are lovely predates the current pop culture fixation on image. I had this exact experience too and I had the same thoughts as I read through this.
I had lots of appearance issues. Unfortunately, I was kind of left to fend for myself through the rough awkward years of adolescence and young adulthood. While she and Recently single need someone to talk to father were incredibly supportive on all other fronts, having ZERO guidance or encouragement during the time when I was growing and changing left me awkward, uncomfortable, and lacking totally in any kind of self-confidence precisely when my female peers were starting to find their way.
Lynn, I think this is a good point. So when Recently single need someone to talk to hypothetical future daughter goes out on the field to beat the opposing team, I can tell her that a determined face and stance are good visual weapons to convey dominance. When she goes for a job interview, I can advise her that studies have shown that women neeed a certain amount newd makeup are perceived as more competent, and we can shop for sharp, professional working clothes together.
But in all those cases, appearance should be treated as just one more tool that you use in order to achieve your goals, not something that defines you. Thank you so much, Nicole for pointing that out. Nicole, I am so glad you said this. And disheartened by how many comments I had to read before coming across I am a single white man over 50. Similarly, I was a child who was told by pretty much everyone that I Recently single need someone to talk to smart, accomplished, clever, witty… every compliment that theoretically counts.
But I was never told I was pretty or beautiful. And that is the one that sticks. In my adulthood, I have often been told that I am. Beautiful, that is. Not in my heart of hearts. It sounds cheap and insincere now. They are not mutually exclusive.
Girls can be both clever and pretty. And we want to and should believe that we are both of these things. I meant to add, that my mother always told me that I was pretty.
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And during my early teenage life she continued to do so she died when I was fifteenbecause like most teenage girls I had poor self esteem. Recently single need someone to talk to never fell into destructive behavior, but then those were different times.
Apparently she did her job, and she did it well. The point is, negative, hurtful comments can sometimes cause as much, if not more damage. Although I agree that in the society in which we live today, the over emphasis on beauty is out of proportion.
Trust me. Smart, clever and independent is great and I THANK my parents for that but theres nothing wrong with a compliment to boost self-confidence and esteem in the physical department once in a while. My mom cared a lot about me not looking Recently single need someone to talk to girlish, because being girlish was not accceptable for her.
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